The Harvard Business Review: once gave this answer to the question of high quality boy.

Believe that such high quality boy, no girl will push him away.

Calm

Don’t tell everyone you are in trouble.

Think for yourself, but don’t speak first, before asking others for their opinion.

Don’t be nervous when you talk, or even when you walk.

Confidence is good, but don’t ignore anyone’s thoughts.

Careful

Think about the cause and effect of what happens around you.

For problems that are not done properly, we should explore their root causes.

Suggest ways to improve or optimize the way things are done.

Everything should be done in an orderly and well-ordered manner.

Courage

Don’t go back on your words and easily overturn what you have decided.

Hold on your point about the things when others are arguing about it.

When the overall mood is low, you should be optimistic and sunny.

When things are not going well, take a breath and look for a new breakthrough.

Liberality

Don’t try to turn potential partners into adversaries or enemies.

Don’t haggle over every little mistake.

Do not have the arrogance of power and the prejudice of knowledge.

Share your personal learning and achievements with others.

Accountability

Don’t say what you can’t do, just do it.

In examining any fault, begin with thyself or thyself.

After the event, first review the fault, and then list the credit.

Take responsibility for the loss.

Connotation

Learn all aspects of knowledge, humbly observe the things around. Wide vision.

Know yourself and cultivate your own correct aesthetic perception.

Laugh at life. Be lazy. Develop healthy habits.

Don’t do anything blindly. Have goals.

The last one I think is self-control

A boy knows when should do what, know a thing should accomplish what level, words should say a few minutes, can control oneself of temper and desire, can grasp measure and measure, This is high quality boy.

Pressure is very big how to do? How does Remove pressure?

How to remove pressure, want to understand the source of pressure first.

Now let me make an assumption.

Imagine a person running 10,000 meters on a dark, empty island.

He did not know how long steps he had run, or how long he would run.

Every time you run 50 meters, 100 meters, 1,000 meters, no one knows exactly where you’ve run and how many meters you have left.

No progress bar, no feedback, no communication, no company, just like this, he kept running, running, running, running to a goal that will never be achieved…

How does it feel?

Imagine a person running on a sunny track

10000 meters, there are scales on the track, he has the referee, there is a family, there are good friends to accompany him.

Every time he finishes 50 meters, the referee will tell him: “you have run 50 meters, you are a little bit closer to the target.

Every time he ran 100 meters, his family and friends was told to him: “you have run 100 meters, very good ah, we have seen your efforts, come on!

He knew better, and his step hardened. Keep running, keep running, another 200 meters, another 300…

So for every distance you run, you get feedback; get feedback every distance you run.

How does that feel?

In fact, these two people do the same thing, are running 10,000 meters, but their psychological feelings are completely different.
This is where the pressure comes from.
When you set out with a very big goal and don’t get a single positive response after a long, long effort, stress becomes a dark cloud that clouds over your mind and overwhelms your will.

It’s not the goal itself that traps you. It’s your imagination of the fear.

The brain loves to amplify fear. Don’t let your brain fool you. Therefore to Remove pressure  the most fundamental, is to seize a few points:

• Break a big target into smaller ones.
• Create positive feedback for yourself, and get one for every step you take, so you’ll be tempted to stick with it.
• Change the unitary evaluation system.
• It is not right to do.
• Think carefully about the purpose of putting so much pressure on yourself and what you really want.
• Be patient with yourself, see yourself as you are, and learn to accept your imperfections.

The room of the soul, does not clean will fall full of dust. Dusty heart, will become gray and confused. We just have to experience a lot of things every day, happy and unhappy, are settled in the heart. The thing in the heart is much, can become disorderly and disorderly, then, the heart also follows disorderly rise. Some painful emotions and unpleasant memories, if filled with the heart, it will enable the public depressed. So, sweeping dust, can make the heart to become bright; clear things, to bid farewell to upset; throw away some meaningless pain. Happiness has more and more space.

If you keep pushing yourself, you’ll never get anywhere. Try to remove pressure and move forward with ease.